There have been so many things going on in the world hasn't there while I hibernated away from my blog? From Mark Duggan, the riots, Wayne Rooney getting hair plugs, Basketball Wives, work (I don't even want to get into that) the list is endless. I would love to get into all of these but I got a few things to say about something else; black women. Yes, us.
I recently came back from holiday with my girls. We went to some European destination to get some sun, sea and sand, perhaps a little holiday romance for some of my single friends. When we got there we were disappointed at the lack of black men. There were none. Well, there were like five but they don't really count because well... they don't. I was amazed however at my girlfriends' unwilliness to bend or at least consider the white man, myself included but I'm taken so I don't count. So it made me wonder; why is that black women are so uncompromising when it comes to dating another race?
Eve's swirling!
I love black men, don't get me wrong and I was one of those women who dated nothing but black men but if you really think about it we are limiting ourselves A LOT by waiting solely for them. In this day and age it's cool to be black and unfortunately for us black women every other race wants to be with a black man too. Of course there are those that would rather stick to their own race or date anything but a black man but the reality of the situation is there is a lot of jungle fever going on out there. Black men are not limiting themselves to us so why do we continue to limit ourselves to them? What we continue to do is throw shade at an interracial couple, not all of us because some have gotten used to seeing ebony and ivory look walking down Oxford Street.
Did I ever mention that I got cheated on with a white girl? He says she wasn't white but she looked hella white to me! Anyway, I'm over it. I am. Seriously. I'm over it. I don't know why I'm going on about it but its fine. Karma is a bitch anyway and he got his. *kanye shrug*
If she ain't black, she's white
In other news, have you noticed how happy a black woman in an interracial relationship is? They always look happy, sound happy. Walking down the street looking all chirpy and happy. I'm not saying that black women are not happy with black men, they are. I have friends that are happily married, engaged or dating a black man. The point I'm trying to put across is that we can also find happiness in other races not just black. I have three aunts who are married to white men, they're happy and although we have this notion that there will be a culture barrier and they will not be able to understand how we do things etc but when someone is serious about you they will try and understand how your culture is and most of the time people are intrigued and want to learn more. He knows you are not white.
I do admire our hope and faith in our black men that we will find our knight in shining Armani but the statistics are not our side ladies. We currently have the highest rate of single women, this is not because we are loud, have high expectations, an attitude or any other stereotype thrown at us; it's because we have a shortage of good black men. It is a known fact that there are more women than men, also known fact that there is a shortage of good men, another fact is that there is a shortage of good black men. If every other race including us is going after black men and they are not going after the 'wasteman' they want the cream of the crop too, black men end up having a wider variety of who to choose from and unfortunately we're not always at the top of their list.
So I say to you my fellow black women, let us love our men and let us also venture out to see what else is out there. A man is a man and a black man is a man with a strong tan, he's blessed (not all of them), and gosh he is just beautiful. Then again so is Channing Tatum, Paul Walker, Wentworth Millerand Hrithik Roshan. Just saying.
