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Just the other night one of my girlfriends asked me what I would do if I had been with a guy for seven plus years and through out that period he had cheated on me several times but now it was becoming less frequent. First of all, we wouldn't get to the 'but' of this situation. How did we get to the seven year mark with him cheating on me? That's what I want to know! Was I in a coma, incarcerated or abducted by aliens? Because I find it hard to understand how I can lose count of how many girls MY man has been with since we've been together. If we're swinging or have an open relationship then I can understand but my jealous trait will not allow that to happen.
So I got to thinking; what does a man really have to possess for me to stick around for seven years of cheating?
i) He gives brain like he graduated from a good school
ii) He did juju on me, now my love is "blind"
iii) He has talents that give porn stars a run for their money
iv) He has deep pockets
v) He is a monster with words
vi) He's fine as hell
vii) You have kids together
And as I write this on the Northern line half eavesdropping, half concentrating I cannot find the sense in the reasons above. Is the pain worth it? Are you that naïve, insecure, in love that you cannot see that even though this man "claims" he loves you he is taking you for a fool? Yes, he is. He does not care or respect you because he is willing to watch you hurt. Does the pain go after seven years? Do you welcome him back with open arms and taste the girl he's just been with? He is ok with seeing you cry yourself to sleep. He thinks you'll get used it, over it or perhaps arrange a nicki minaje. You know you don't like it, stop fronting. You know he's not gonna change. You have allowed him for seven years to cheat on you and now you think he's tired because its less frequent? Go 'head boo, do you!
Bottom line, there's no better pussy than new pussy and you allowing him to go and do his "manly" thing is setting yourself up for an big fall. My friend advised me that some people might have hopes for the ring but my question still remains, what's the point? I guess I am a little biased because I am not a big fan of marriage so the ring is not a big deal to me but even if I was, why would I want to get married to someone who is going to be leading a single life? If I were to get married my husband would have to understand that he's eating these Jacob's crackers for life! Forget about Ritz and having variety to spice up your life. It is called monogamy for a reason.
Maybe I'm the naïve one and I don't know about the ting. Maybe with time I will become a little more compromising with cheating when I decide to lie to myself that all men cheat. They cheat because we allow them to. Nothing more, nothing less.
The video below is a must watch by @sulibreaks #hesnot
