How To Feel Good In 10 Ways

A wise man once said:

"There's no such thing as an ugly woman, only a lazy one."

 At first I didn't agree but then take a look at some celebrities without make-up. I rest my case. Its natural to have insecurities, I think its a natural shame to be honest because there honestly isn't such a thing as an ugly woman. I'm often the relationship joker and cynic but I thought I should take some time out and speak to my sisters who might be feeling a little down on the self esteem side because let's face it we all suffer from it at some point so stop feeling sorry for yourself and follow my tips and we'll have your confidence higher than an Amy Winehouse at the Brits.

First and foremost, it all starts with you.

i) Fake it til you make it

Have you ever seen a girl you didn't think was attractive with Trey Songz looking guys on her case and wondered how she gets all the attention? She told herself that she was hot enough to get anyone and she did. If you believe you're the hottest thing since electrical heaters and act like it; the whole world will treat you like you are. Think positive thoughts about yourself and accept that you are not perfect and that no one else is. Once past that hurdle think of yourself as uber hot and always keep that in mind. Sometimes faking it will take you to your desired goal and while you know you're faking it; no one else does!

ii) Wear make-up like you're the face of MAC

For years I didn't wear make up because I simply didn't want to. Didn't see the need and was quite happy with the way I looked without it but I didn't feel attractive. Every time I wore make up to go out to a special event, I had this confidence that I never got every other day. I wanted to look in the mirror the whole night simply because I liked how I looked and don't get me started on the compliments. I don't think the compliments were because of how I looked but how I felt came out and people felt that vibe so I started wearing make up everyday simply because I like how I feel when I'm wearing it and my confidence goes up a notch everyday not to mention I don't run away from taking pictures now!
In addition to wearing some make-up, dress well and keep your hair looking good because when you look good, you feel good. Our confidence starts with how we look outside then it's manipulated into our brain so we feel good too!

iii) Accentuate your best assets

Like I said at the beginning, everyone has insecurities and if you can't fix them create a distraction. Simple. Those who know me know that I wasn't blessed with an ass like Buffy the body and no matter how much I've tried to eat and do squats it just won't grow so what did I do? Created a distraction. I started putting the focus on other areas I felt confident with making people forget about my not-so-plump backside.
Everyone has a part of their body they like best so accentuate it whether its your eyes, lips, hair, breasts, stomach, legs, bum, feet the list is endless put your focus on that area which will divert people's attention from the area you're not so proud of.
(Tip for my not-so-plump backside sisters, avoid wearing high waisted clothes they flatten your bum and wear fitted or low rise jeans or trousers)

iv) Treat yourself and take care of yourself

Its called retail therapy for a reason and you don't need to buy the whole Selfridges. There are now so many shops and boutiques that cater to all purse sizes and sometimes you just need to buy that one pair of shoe or that little black dress to make you feel good. Go to the salon and get a new hairstyle; you can also treat yourself to some lunch, facial, mani or pedi. All these are simple little things that pump up your confidence.

v) Listen to music

You ever feel down until you hear Beyonce singing Single Ladies, Katy Perry's Fireworks or even the Glee cast? Music has a subliminal way of manipulating our thoughts and mood. Try listening to Kelis' 'Caught Out There' and tell me if you feel better then listen to Usher's Dj Got Us Falling In Love and notice the difference. There are songs for every mood. When you're down try listening to an upbeat song, dance and sing a long and in 4 minutes, your mood will be different.
Listen to music when you're on the train or in your car and let the music move you.
(Not literally because people on the train might think you're crazy)

vi) Go out

Don't stay couped up in the house feeling sorry for yourself. Get your glad rags on keeping number 1 and 2 in mind. When you're out there is a 99.999% that someone is going to compliment you which is exactly what you need to confirm what you already knew. Chris Rock once said

"women need three things in life: water, food and compliments"

So the need for appreciation is in our nature. Nothing wrong with that. Savour it and believe that they are complimenting on you on what is true. You're fabulous! Distraction is also a good way to making yourself feel good, so stay busy!

vii) Flirt

There's nothing wrong with a little bit of harmless flirting. A little smile, batting your eyelashes and engaging in meaningless conversation adds nothing but a feel good feeling into your life. Flirting is another confirmation that you are worth talking to. If someone didn't want to engage in any sort of conversation with you they wouldn't. You don't have to flirt with a stranger, even your significant other. A little bit of appreciation goes a long way so take your time and enjoy it.

viii) Surround yourself with positive people

If you can read this you can probably add and subtract so we all know that plus and minus equals minus. So no matter how much of a positive and happy individual you are; if you surround yourself with negative people it will rub off on you.
Hang around people that uplift your spirits, stroke your ego and add to your life. Life is too short to be surrounding yourself with negative people because they'll just spread negative energy and you're better than that.

ix) Do something you're good at

Everyone has something that they are good at; whether it's drawing, painting, writing, singing, dancing etc we all have talents. Every now and then do something that you're good at or something that you enjoy alone. I like to sing and dance when I'm home alone and Lord knows I can't do either of those but I still do them and I feel good during and after doing them. If nothing comes to mind, take up a new hobby or go to the gym. A good work out is guaranteed to leave you feeling refreshed. Take care of you.

x) Get enough rest

Seems a bit too silly and a bit too easy but tiredness has never made anyone feel good. Make sure you get enough rest and sleep. An average adult needs 8 hours sleep so try and get some. Lie ins are great because your body gets to relax but overdoing them will just leave you feeling groggy and tired.
The trick is to get enough rest, not too much and not too little because they'll both leave you feeling tired which won't make you look or feel good.

Basically, the easiest way to feeling good is to take care of yourself and think positively about yourself. No one is perfect and everyone has their own opinion but the only one that matters is the one you have for yourself so think good thoughts!

Ladies and gentlemen of AVG blog, any other suggestions?