So I got to thinking... does Lala have a point? If you think about it, the term "ho" was invented by men to be used against us. Before you conclude that I'm trying to encourage women to open their legs to any Tom, Dick (no pun intended) and Harry, I'm just pointing out the fact that we are living in a double standard world where contrary to what Beyonce says, we really don't rule the world. If a guy sleeps with 50 girls, he's a G, hell women prefer to be with a guy that's been with plenty women because he has more experience but a guy will not go near a girl who has slept with 50 guys. See The Numbers Game.
So, what is a hoe? When I asked a few people I got different replies but the most common was someone who had little to no respect for herself, morals and slept with plenty of men. Does the number of people you've slept with determine whether you're a ho or not too? How about if you happen to be gullible and fall for every sweet guy who tells you they don't know where you've been all their life because as much as they are dumb men are very smart and are able to sniff out desperation out of a woman.
Scenario 1: If a virgin was in the club dancing like she was having sex and somewhere in there the guy slipped his hand into her panties and started playing. See figure 1. Is she a ho? She has never slept with anyone but she's allowing this guy who she doesn't even know his name to go all up in her in a club with a hundred people around.
Scenario 2: Girl sleeps with guy on the first date
Is this ho-ish? I know a few couples who had sex on the first date and are still together years down the line. This is cool, good for them but my question remains what if you do that with every man you go on a date with but doesn't end up being your boyfriend. How many men do you have to go through on the first date until it becomes official? Women often say it's not all the time that they'd sleep with someone on the first date but sometimes it just feels right and the fire will be burning. Alright.
Scenario 3: Girl has many "serious" short term relationships because many guys have led her to believe that they wanted a serious relationship out of her and turns they only wanted one thing. Hopeless romantic who is just naive, is she a hoe?
Scenario 4: Girl meets guy, she likes him, she sleeps with him. Why not?
She's grown, he's grown (maybe) and double standards were invented by men. A woman should have the right to her sexuality just as much as a man does.
Scenario 5: Girl meets a married guy becomes his mistress
According to Lala, this is her definition of a hoe; a home wrecker. Someone who intentionally has an affair with a man who she knows is attached to someone. What if he lied to her and said he wasn't in a relationship or married and then later down the line she found out but she was in too deep and couldn't let go because technically he had been her man. Whether there was another woman on the side or not, for months that's all she knew and she thought she was the only one. Can we call her a ho then?
I'm torn, for years I had my own definition of what I considered a ho to be and I was set but after talking to people and seeing things, doing things I have started questioning what I actually consider a ho and I don't know. I have concluded that a ho is man-made word for men to explore their sexuality and keep women under their control. Even though we can now vote, work, some careers have even gotten rid of the glass ceiling we are still living in a man's world and we as women have that mentality that if a girl does this or that she's a ho. But like I said it's all depending on the individuals and it is in the eye of the beholder.
Happy Humping to those who hump!!!
