How Facebook Stays Ruining Relationships

Oh, how I miss the good ol' days when all we had were house phones and letters. If you wanted to talk to someone you would call their house phone or if they didn't have a phone you'd write them a letter. Oh, how I miss the good ol' days!
These days we have email, texts, mobile phones, MSN, BBM, Facebook the list is endless...I've sat down many times trying to figure out why Facebook has differed itself from face-pic, hi5, myspace even though all these social networking sites had their similarities; I cannot comprehend how Facebook has managed to destroy 1 in 5 relationships.

The below mentioned reasons are just a few as to why many relationship are suffering because of Mark Zuckerberg. Being on Facebook is like having a side-piece your potential boyfriend/girlfriend is aware of them but is cool with because you're not official yet. The best decision is once you get into a relationship is to cut them off because they will ruin your relationship.

1. Attention whores

Facebook and Twitter have now been bombarded by these attention whores (not limited to women) who pose half naked on their profile pics showing their titties and asses. Who cares? A man does. Bottom line, a man is a man and when a half naked female requests him to be his friend chances are his probably going to accept the request. Something that's not amusing to the girlfriend. Salt is added to the wound when we find out that you don't even know this girl, you just have a mutual friend so you felt you had to add her. No, that's not how it works, think about how your significant other would feel seeing that on your profile. Use your head!

2. Wall posts and comments

The infamous Facebook wall. Soooo much damage can be done when someone posts on your wall or comments on your status or picture. Private jokes that you shared and sexual innuendos are unacceptable because as humans we tend to be jealous, without even trying. Granted, you can not control what people write on your wall but what you say to the comment or do not say is what might get you into trouble. We can't help it if a girl writes 'hi papi, miss you' and we feel like choking her better yet, choking you for replying 'you joker, miss you  too!' She might be Latina but she surely don't look Latina to me! Why is she calling you by a pet name and why is she missing you?

Isn't it normal to miss your friends anymore? Not on Facebook it's not!

3. Relationship Status

I can't think of how many arguments I have witnessed over relationship statuses.

The conversation might go a little like this:

"Why is your status still saying single?"

"Why have you not accepted my relationship request?"

"Why is there nothing on your relationship status?"

"Why did you remove your relationship status or changed it to single? Are you single? Is there something you're not telling me? Who's that ho you added yesterday? Is that why you removed your relationship status?"

Too many arguments have taken place regarding this issue. To those who do not understand why this is a big deal. Let me break it down for you.

4. The Ex Invasion

The unwritten rules of Facebook whilst in a relationship go like this:
i) Once you are in a new relationship you must delete your ex from your friends.
Now, I understand that some people are cool with their exes and if your new girlfriend/boyfriend is fine with you having them as your friend while they write up and down your wall. Comment every time you post a new profile picture or poke you every now and then, then cool. Do your thing. To the rest of us, your ex is an enemy. We do not appreciate any friendly contact between you and them.  I don't care what you think! *Kanye shrug*
ii) Photos of you two together
We know you used to be together. We have accepted it and put it at the back of our minds. However, one of those days when I'm bored i might want to go through your Facebook pictures and the last thing I want to see is pictures of you and your ex. It is the same as having her picture in your living room or bedroom wall.

5. 500 friends and 450 of them are of the opposite sex

It's a social network right? So technically adding people is part of networking, you never know who knows who and how they can be helpful to you in the future. Right? No. This clause is also in the attention whores family because what are you doing adding people you don't know every single day and all of them just happened to be of the opposite sex. Because adding people of the same sex would be suspect, right? *Rolling my eyes*
If you are a woman/man in a committed relationship the last thing you should be prioritising is adding half naked men or women onto your profile especially if you don't know them because your intentions will become unclear to your significant other no matter how innocent you think it is. It doesn't look that way.

6. 'Like'-ing the wrong page

When you're in the a relationship the last page you should 'like' is Can't stop thinking about my ex. There are many funny pages on Facebook to like but always be conscience of which pages you like because they might send the wrong message.

7. Getting 'tagged' in the wrong picture at the wrong place and time

Perhaps you had told your s/o that you were just gonna stay in and watch football. I'm not much a footie fan so I wouldn't know that kick off time for football on Saturday is 12.45 and 3pm so I'd believe you. Come Sunday and I log onto Facebook and who do I see tagged? Your ass, acting a fool popping champagne in the club, hugged up with 2 girls. Not a good look.

8. Deleting your significant other's tag/comment

Take about slap in the face! hypothetically, if I tag my significant other in my photo because we look cute or I write a lovey-dovey message on his wall and he happened to delete it. WTF?! Are you having a laugh? I'd love to hear the reason for this one because there is nothing that will make your significant other feel like the sticky s**t underneath your shoe if you delete something they tagged you in or a comment they'd have posted for you because that's just rude.

9. Getting cropped out of the picture

Cropping someone out of your profile picture is not so much of a big deal because it is your profile so you don't have any obligation to put someone else on it but if you tend to crop your girlfriend/boyfriend out of every picture posted they might think you are trying to hide them and its not very nice is it especially when all your other friends are in your pictures but them.

10. Facebook Chat and Inbox

This is for those who are unfortute enough to have shared their Facebook password with their partners or just dumb enough not to log out of their account after using it and then get caught out with incriminating messages either to your friends or to someone you know you should not be talking to. Make it a habit to log off when you have finished using your Facebook account


Of course there's only one way to avoid all these problems occuring in your relationship, be honest with each other and if you know that your account attracts the opposite sex like moth to a flame, deactivate your account and have a peaceful life. Seriously.

So good people of AVG Blog are there any other reasons why Facebook has ruined relationships? Perhaps yours or a "friend's" and would like to share.

10 Signs You Are Dealing With A "Wasteman"

I'm going to keep it real with you guys. I'm 24 years old in two weeks and *in Bernie Mac's voice* I ain't got time for no foolishness. I'm old, my body weary so I'm going to share with you some signs that you might be dealing with a wasteman who ain't about nothing.

*thinks to self* I don't know why I always sound American when I'm writing... weird.

Anyway, I have met a lot of brothers (not limited to black men) who haven't got anything going on for themselves. No, they are not victim of circumstances so stop defending them! Or perhaps you are not sure what a wasteman is and if the guy that's trying to spit game falls into this category, well I'm going to break it down for you. These signs are not limited to men but to women as well because there are some girls out there whose ambitions are to become a WAG in my opinion that's a waste.

1. Mr When I Grow Up 
He has ambitions of being successful but if you ask him what hes doing about it he has no plan. This guy wants to own a Bentley, Rolls Royce and retire at 35 which is amazing because we all love an ambitious man but when you ask him what he's doing to achieve this goal he tells you that he's going to be an entrepreneur. Doing what? He doesn't know, all he knows is that hes going to be a rich entrepreneur doing something that gives him a lot of money. (I have actually heard this before and dude thought he was impressing me.) I swear any Tom, Dick and Harry are now calling them self an entrepreneur and when you ask them what their annual turn over is you might as well be speaking Cantonese!

2. Mr No Ambition
He has no five year plan. Any man worth his salt knows where he wants to be in five years. I'm not talking about a vague idea but a concrete plan of whats in year one, two, five etc. Whether he succeeds in doing this in five years is another thing but at least he has a plan. He knows where he wants to be and is working hard to get there. A wasteman lives by the day, he doesn't care what hes doing in five years and frankly doesn't show much creativity in planning something. He is fine being a cashier or sales assistant at 25 and does not have any higher hopes of being anything bigger or better than that.

3. Mr On The Dole
I understand that we all fall into hard times every now and then and have to make that trip to the Jobcentre to sign on in order for you to receive those few pounds every fortnight which is cool. The job market is tough at the moment and there's such a large number of unemployed people that you have to take pity. Mr On The Dole however has no plans of getting a job. He is fine staying at home and scratching his balls while making that trip to the Jobcentre every fortnight to collect his JSA. When that cheque clears on Friday he spends his day in Ladbrokes or the pub. He also has the cheek to ask his Personal Advisor when his due for his New Deal card n order for him to get discounted travel. No pride whatsoever! Wasteman.

4. Mr Forever Young
He loves kids, especially the young ones. No, hes not a paedophile just a really enthusiastic adult who connects well the younger crowd. He has no job and he hangs around kids around the age of 10-15 to show them the ropes so he will pick them up and hang out with them probably have them push him on the swings or something. In his head what he's doing is perfectly fine and when the street lights come on, they all pack up their stuff and make their way to his mama's house where he still has naked women posters on his wall.
You might also caught Mr Forever Young couped up in his bedroom playing COD Black Ops all day on XBox Live or PS3. Get a job!

5. Mr Weezy F Baby
The difference between Weezy F Baby and Mr Weezy F Baby is that the latter is broke. How this man manages to have multiple baby mamas is beyond me. I'm referring to both. I will not get into Lil Wayne's situation because thats a whole new post which baffles me as to how this man can have a baby by Nivea and Lauren London at the same time... HOW???? Anyway, your Weezy seems to have game like Wayne but unlike Wanye he's wallet is not as heavy. He acknowledges having 4 baby mamas but doesn't take care of them and when asked he says he is not sure that the babies are his. Really? Are you really that good that four women will try and claim you to be their baby daddy when you don't even have a job?
Mr Weezy might also come in the form of Tyrese in Baby Boy. Some poor woman happened to fall in love with his no good self and can;t get rid of him. He spends his days driving around in her car, eating her food and bringing other women to their house to spend time while she's at work and he doesn't even pay any bills! Take care of your responsibilities you wasteman!

6. Mr X6 living with his mama
You ever seen a dude rolling around in his 60 reg Range Rover or 645i convertible tinted and all that and you think he's gotta have his life on point. He must have a good job, bachelor pad etc, but no. Beautiful car? check. Good job? check. Bachelor pad? ...No. He still lives at home with his mama in a council estate in Peckham and dude is just shy of 30 years old. What are you doing? Get a modest car and move out of your mum's house!

7. Mr Conspiracy Theorist
Mr Conspiracy Theory believes it's him against the world. He didn't get that job because they're racist. Eh, no it was because you showed up wearing jeans sagging down to your knees. He did not get the job because during an interview the employer ask you what experience you had and you replied: "Shiiiit, man's trying to do his ting innit?" and you kept using the 's' word and 'f' word when they asked you a question you didn't have an answer to. Get over yourself and learn to talk properly and buy some trousers and shirt. Lack of money is not an excuse, go to Primark!

8. Mr. Endorsements
No, he's not a ball player or a celebrity and he really doesn't have any endorsements he's just really cheap that you will think T-Mobile is paying him for his persist use for that one brand.

Here's an example of how a conversation with Mr. Endorsements might go:

Him: Mans feeling you innit. You're nice, like. 
Girl: *giggles* Thank you
Him: So what you saying, you gon' give man your digits?
Girl: You gon' call me?
Him: Yeahhhh, so what, you're on T-Mobile yeah?
Girl: *Blank stare*

There are so many words I would share with this dude at this point but some wasteman are just not worth it. This is not the only case that Mr Endorsements is guilty of. He also comes in the form bringing vouchers to McDonald's on your first date, not calling you but just text because he doesn't have credit but unlimited texts.

I know I've left out some signs for a wasteman so help me out or was there one I put up that you wouldn't agree to be a wasteman quality? Ladies and gentlemen of AVG Blog, help me out!