Oh, how I miss the good ol' days when all we had were house phones and letters. If you wanted to talk to someone you would call their house phone or if they didn't have a phone you'd write them a letter. Oh, how I miss the good ol' days!
These days we have email, texts, mobile phones, MSN, BBM, Facebook the list is endless...I've sat down many times trying to figure out why Facebook has differed itself from face-pic, hi5, myspace even though all these social networking sites had their similarities; I cannot comprehend how Facebook has managed to destroy 1 in 5 relationships.
The below mentioned reasons are just a few as to why many relationship are suffering because of Mark Zuckerberg. Being on Facebook is like having a side-piece your potential boyfriend/girlfriend is aware of them but is cool with because you're not official yet. The best decision is once you get into a relationship is to cut them off because they will ruin your relationship.
1. Attention whores
Facebook and Twitter have now been bombarded by these attention whores (not limited to women) who pose half naked on their profile pics showing their titties and asses. Who cares? A man does. Bottom line, a man is a man and when a half naked female requests him to be his friend chances are his probably going to accept the request. Something that's not amusing to the girlfriend. Salt is added to the wound when we find out that you don't even know this girl, you just have a mutual friend so you felt you had to add her. No, that's not how it works, think about how your significant other would feel seeing that on your profile. Use your head!
2. Wall posts and comments
The infamous Facebook wall. Soooo much damage can be done when someone posts on your wall or comments on your status or picture. Private jokes that you shared and sexual innuendos are unacceptable because as humans we tend to be jealous, without even trying. Granted, you can not control what people write on your wall but what you say to the comment or do not say is what might get you into trouble. We can't help it if a girl writes 'hi papi, miss you' and we feel like choking her better yet, choking you for replying 'you joker, miss you too!' She might be Latina but she surely don't look Latina to me! Why is she calling you by a pet name and why is she missing you?
Isn't it normal to miss your friends anymore? Not on Facebook it's not!
3. Relationship Status
I can't think of how many arguments I have witnessed over relationship statuses.
The conversation might go a little like this:
"Why is your status still saying single?"
"Why have you not accepted my relationship request?"
"Why is there nothing on your relationship status?"
"Why did you remove your relationship status or changed it to single? Are you single? Is there something you're not telling me? Who's that ho you added yesterday? Is that why you removed your relationship status?"
4. The Ex Invasion
The unwritten rules of Facebook whilst in a relationship go like this:
i) Once you are in a new relationship you must delete your ex from your friends.
Now, I understand that some people are cool with their exes and if your new girlfriend/boyfriend is fine with you having them as your friend while they write up and down your wall. Comment every time you post a new profile picture or poke you every now and then, then cool. Do your thing. To the rest of us, your ex is an enemy. We do not appreciate any friendly contact between you and them. I don't care what you think! *Kanye shrug*
ii) Photos of you two together
We know you used to be together. We have accepted it and put it at the back of our minds. However, one of those days when I'm bored i might want to go through your Facebook pictures and the last thing I want to see is pictures of you and your ex. It is the same as having her picture in your living room or bedroom wall.
5. 500 friends and 450 of them are of the opposite sex
It's a social network right? So technically adding people is part of networking, you never know who knows who and how they can be helpful to you in the future. Right? No. This clause is also in the attention whores family because what are you doing adding people you don't know every single day and all of them just happened to be of the opposite sex. Because adding people of the same sex would be suspect, right? *Rolling my eyes*
If you are a woman/man in a committed relationship the last thing you should be prioritising is adding half naked men or women onto your profile especially if you don't know them because your intentions will become unclear to your significant other no matter how innocent you think it is. It doesn't look that way.
6. 'Like'-ing the wrong page
When you're in the a relationship the last page you should 'like' is Can't stop thinking about my ex. There are many funny pages on Facebook to like but always be conscience of which pages you like because they might send the wrong message.
7. Getting 'tagged' in the wrong picture at the wrong place and time
Perhaps you had told your s/o that you were just gonna stay in and watch football. I'm not much a footie fan so I wouldn't know that kick off time for football on Saturday is 12.45 and 3pm so I'd believe you. Come Sunday and I log onto Facebook and who do I see tagged? Your ass, acting a fool popping champagne in the club, hugged up with 2 girls. Not a good look.
8. Deleting your significant other's tag/comment
Take about slap in the face! hypothetically, if I tag my significant other in my photo because we look cute or I write a lovey-dovey message on his wall and he happened to delete it. WTF?! Are you having a laugh? I'd love to hear the reason for this one because there is nothing that will make your significant other feel like the sticky s**t underneath your shoe if you delete something they tagged you in or a comment they'd have posted for you because that's just rude.
9. Getting cropped out of the picture
Cropping someone out of your profile picture is not so much of a big deal because it is your profile so you don't have any obligation to put someone else on it but if you tend to crop your girlfriend/boyfriend out of every picture posted they might think you are trying to hide them and its not very nice is it especially when all your other friends are in your pictures but them.
10. Facebook Chat and Inbox
This is for those who are unfortute enough to have shared their Facebook password with their partners or just dumb enough not to log out of their account after using it and then get caught out with incriminating messages either to your friends or to someone you know you should not be talking to. Make it a habit to log off when you have finished using your Facebook account
Of course there's only one way to avoid all these problems occuring in your relationship, be honest with each other and if you know that your account attracts the opposite sex like moth to a flame, deactivate your account and have a peaceful life. Seriously.
So good people of AVG Blog are there any other reasons why Facebook has ruined relationships? Perhaps yours or a "friend's" and would like to share.
Great post, so witty, funny, and up to date.Keep them coming!
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